Saturday: June 20, 2020
Luke 2:51 He went down to Nazareth with them, and was continually submissive and obedient to them; and His mother treasured all these things in her heart.
Today, we read on the visitation to the temple and Jesus staying back to do a Q & A session with the teachers. Mary and Joseph had incorrectly made the assumption that Jesus would be in their travel company but he was not. Many times, when assumptions are put forward, they are nothing more than biases: negative connotations and labels placed on individuals based largely on little knowledge of who they are.
However, for the family in this Gospel, the assumptions were based on a different foundation for Joseph and Mary had knowledge about the character of the son they had nurtured for twelve years. He was a good lad and the statement ‘he continued to be obedient to them’ spoke volumes. He didn’t just begin after they went to Jerusalem, it was something he had always done, and that clearly influenced his parents’ assumption.
Assumptions are thus not always biases, sometimes they represent a decision made based on the expectations we have of others. We, therefore, make projections and form ideas about an individual’s character: they are committed or hardworking hence…It becomes our intention to give the benefit of doubt and make assumptions on the basis of the positive image we have of or expect from them.
This doesn’t always end up as we expect and so we might end up making assumptions that are proven unfounded. Does that then suggest that we cease to have any expectations? Not necessarily! Sweetheart, however outspoken or subtle our expectations from others in any situation may be, it does have the potential to affect their responses. Whether they choose to respond as we ‘assumed’ or otherwise, we still ought to make effort to offer the opportunity for them to meet the positive expectations we have of them.