Luke 2:44 Thinking he was in their company, they traveled on for a day. Then they began looking for him among their relatives and friends.
Today we read about the visit of Jerusalem and Jesus going missing after the events of the day. We realise that the first place Mary and Joseph sought to look for Jesus was among relatives and acquaintance. You may wonder why but it seemed reasonable to expect a twelve year old lad who had lost his way to look for what and who was familiar. That is why the foundational habits and attitudes we form are important.
Even as we grow up therefore, we have a natural inclination to default to specific ways of doing things: talking, thinking, relating to others and do forth. Thus, the transformation through renewal of mind which Saint Paul highlighted in the letter to the Romans, is intended to encourage the adoption of a new set of default states.
That way, our primary response will not simply be because of what feels or is comfortable, but rather what aligns with the word of God.