Wednesday: August 12, 2020
Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins you, go to him and show him his fault. But do it privately, just between yourselves. If he listens to you, you have won your brother back.
‘Do not wash your dirty linen in public’ is an idiom that sums up the first part of Jesus words today: ‘do not be so quick to discuss and make known matters that ought to be kept personal and private. Regardless of what they entail, some issues exist between exactly two people and on all fronts, should be for their ears only.
Nonetheless, there are some things which although people find difficult or embarrassed to say to those about whom it directly concerns, find it easier to communicate them to ‘third parties”. These are usually about the things many would classify as ‘weaknesses’ or private matters. To put it lightly, praising a person to their face seems a lot easier than singing their faults in the same way.
Beloved, no matter how unreasonable an individual may seem, if a matter concerns them, do not skip that initial stage of one on one dialogue because many get offended when others find out about their own faults before they do. It makes them feel as though has been a public broadcast of their weaknesses to the whole world, some might even seem it a breach of trust. Also a third party’s involvement has the potential to also blow matters significantly out of proportion if not managed right.
Seeking help is good, but many relationships have also been lost on that account. So do ensure that you have exhausted all private avenues to address concerns before taking things a step further. It’s important.