Reference text : Luke 19:11-28
Luke 19:22 And he saith unto him, Out of thine own mouth will I judge thee, thou wicked servant. Thou knewest that I was an austere man, taking up that I laid not down, and reaping that I did not sow:
There is a reflection-action-reflection methodology I had the opportunity to hear about while in school and looking at the words of the third servant in the Gospel, I was almost certain he was in trouble. Not only because he did not obey the master’s instruction or because he kept his pound in a napkin – any master, upon returning from a tiring trip, will be fuming with rage if they heard those words he uttered, and in that manner by their servant.
This is not to say that the servant had no right to speak out, however, if there is one lesson I have had to learn outside of any book, it is this: “most of the time, when you begin to feel like saying everything on your mind, pause and reflect’. By “EVERYTHING ON YOUR MIND”, I make reference to those raw unfiltered thoughts that brew in our minds and are fuelled by negative emotions such as anger, disgust, frustrations and the like.
An alternative choice of words by the servant could have started a dialogue and steered this conversation in a whole new direction instead of provoking judgement upon himself. We may be of the view that we are satisfying our ego or rage when we gladly speak our mind but very often, that doesn’t always have the desired effects.
Let us not be so quick to just speak out but check the weight of our words and the manner in which we utter them as that determines the effect it will have on others. This is important because though we hardly take this into account, more than often, we ourselves are include in the ‘others’ .
Remember # reflection-action-reflection.