Wednesday: 21st August, 2019
Reference text: Matthew 22:1-14
Matthew 22:6 The rest seized his servants, mistreated them, and killed them.
Refusing an invitation to a wedding isn’t something to shed blood over. In fact, it can be a simple matter of saying ‘I can’t make it’, then one might offer to give reasons, although that is entirely a personal choice. Whether your host deems your reasons plausible or not has little to do with you, only that you go through the process of letting them know that your presence should not be expected.
Therefore, the scenes in the Gospel today appear as those torn write out of a war manual- beating and killing servants because they had been sent to with reminder notices for a wedding. The nature of responses offered to this invitation led to a massive loss of lives along with the destruction of entire cities. With alternative words like ‘Sorry, we can’t make it, extend our sincere apologies to the King’ and maybe give a wedding gift to make up for their absence, all of these losses could have been avoided.
In proverbs 15:1, it is written ‘A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.’ We need to remember that not every matter needs to blow out of proportion because if we are careful with our answers, we will avoid spells of anger, tensions and conflict. However, don’t see this as a call to avoid answers that lead to an addressing of delicate issues for a gentle answer does not just suggest an answer that always agrees,
a gentle answer is also be firm.