Friday: 8th March, 2019
Reference text: Matthew 9:14-15
Matthew 9:15 Jesus answered, “How can the guests of the bridegroom mourn while he is with them? The time will come when the bridegroom will be taken from them; then they will fast.
Jesus’ words in the Gospel today are usually associated with a specific line of thought. However, as I read it today, something else came to mind. An inevitability in life is that at some point we will lose some of our loved ones. In such moments, while some will be ‘happy’ they made the most of the time they had with those loved ones, enjoying their company and making time to love and to help, others wallow in a pool of regret.
The reason is this: these people begin to wonder how they maintained such shallow relationships and underappreciated others. They begin to ask themselves questions like: why wasn’t I any nicer to them? Why didn’t I respond when they called? Why did I not just let go and let them know that I love them? Sadly, this realisation is arrived at a little too late.
Before wading into the waters of regret,
we need to remember what Jesus told his listeners: ‘when the bridegroom is around, the wedding guests don’t fast.’
Even though we can always get better at doing things, regrets surface when we begin to realise deep down that we have not done our best. Beloved, when we have the opportunity to enjoy the company of those who mean anything to us, we have to make it count. We have to love all we can, laugh all we can and make the most of those moments.
We may not be sat at a wedding at every moment, but we have significant social capital: relationships and alliances that we ought to preserve. When the bridegroom is around, while those we are meant to cherish are around, we need to make them feel appreciated and loved.